If you could go back in time and have a 5 minute conversation with yourself ten years ago, what would you say?
10 years ago I was 24 years old and owned a home with a boyfriend. I was an office assistant to a few Mary Kay Sales Directors. I did not feel good about myself, my relationship, or much of anything in my life. I did, however, have great friends and family.
I would tell that girl to immediately find a way or make a way to increase her income to be able to pay the mortgage and utilities by herself. Shortly she was going to be in a position where a larger income would give her more options and the ability to stand on her own two feet and keep the house instead of moving out. I would tell her that although she could go home to live with her family, that it would be better in her financial future to buy out the co-owner of the house, even if she had to take in a couple roommates to cover all the bills.
Don’t be a wimp and try to avoid rocking the boat. Sometimes being nice is the wrong decision and you can’t make everyone happy. Get a lawyer’s advice right away. Even though it kills you to fork over the money, do it and be done with it. If you have to rent the house and live with Mom, Robert & Dean at least you won’t have to go through a foreclosure.
I would tell her that the upcoming break up is not the end of the world, but would be best for both people. You aren’t a good match anymore, so just call it quits. There is a great guy out there for her who is respectful, kind, loving, responsible, honest, funny,and trustworthy. He’s well worth waiting for. In the meantime, work, have fun, travel a bit,and go to school.
I would make sure she understood that even longterm friendships take time and work, and need to be cared for. The negativity of a break up can also poison other relationships. If you carry anger and resentment towards one person, others feel that and don’t want to be around it. If you want to keep your best friend make sure you take care of that relationship.
Spend time with your grandparents asking questions about when they were young, how they met, and record it all. Also get them to label all the photos they have.
Leave me some comments. If you knew me when I was age 24, what you would have told me??